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As always, tuned in to your thinking - thank you, Shane. A modification (or variation on the concept) for my part:

.a) - “just five minutes” is a variant on multiple forms of constrained objective-framing (which is how I’m terming the “just five minutes” concept)

.b) - like all of us (lovely inclusive broad generalisation there ☺️) who have ADHD-affected behaviour, all of us have our own unique cues

.c) - “just five minutes” - literally, will kill me. A ‘time’ based constraint is a f’k up of epic proportions for me

.d) - a physical, tangible goal is my distinctly more functional framework

.e) - okay, okay, when it comes to doing a little bit of blood-circulation energy and body work (aka the dreaded “exercise”), then ‘just five minutes’ does work a charm - I’ll give that one

.f) - as above, alternative naming works a treat - i.e. it’s not “doing my work”, it’s “writing a paragraph in the report”, it’s not “getting stuck on a model”, it’s jumping the hoop and opening up the model, it’s not “getting stuck on a model”, it’s jumping through the hoop and asking for help, it’s not “getting hamstrung by I.T.”, it’s ‘try again today to solve the problem - i.e. communicate with I.T.’. L

.g.) - as already indicated above, the tangible alternative to “just five minutes”, is also to do with how long and what I’ll be doing before I actually get started. In this scenario, you can spin tricks with “just five minutes” - it’ll be a doozy every time. But, if I look at the clock and say, okay, at 3.00pm then . . . .’I’ll stop playing games’, and limit it to that, then okay, provided that: (i.) 3.00pm is not an hour away, i.e. the time that I set as my limit is a time of day, not a duration, and (ii.) that time of day must be suitably close to the time that it is now for it to have meaning. .eg. If I’m lying on the couch vegging with cellphone games and it’s 1.00pm, and I set myself 3.00pm to stop playing games - . . . .bwahahahaha - it’s a myth. But if it’s 1.00pm and I set myself 1 hour to sink into it, and immerse, without further thought of what comes next, then I know fully confidently that when 2.00pm comes around, my mind will be ready for doing something next. Whatever that ‘next’ is.

.h.) - and here’s the special part, the “next” thing to do is where it gets meaningful. Whatever comes next has to be tolerable in order for it to actually happen. And this is where the personal modification of “just five minutes” is more aligned with what is my reality, i.e. sometimes it’s not a big thing - i.e. no thought given to it at all, i.e. I’ve had my 1hr couch-time, and it’s not even thought about getting back onto the desk.

.g.) - however, I think you get the concept : whatever it is that will tear me away into a constructive action, is exactly that - a bound activity : just one row of knitting, just one item of DIY or domestic chore (and then not some arbitrary scope - be specific, fix the plug, change the lightbulb, connect the garden hose, cook the veggies, take out the trash) . . . .literally just one. And if it turns out that literally just one is what you can manage, then hallef’kngluiah; seriously - halleluiah. Do it. Do that one thing. And if you need to go back to the couch for another reset then do that. If you have the internal stamina to do one thing else, then do that.

Pick that one thing. It may be tangible, it may be “just five minutes” (for me, “just five minutes” is simply insufficiently tangible, but the concept is on the nailhead). Pick one thing. Make it a small thing. The equivalent of one step; one walk around the block, . . . . .

My piece of thought. Thanks always, Shane ☺️

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